Authentic tantra is derived from the combination of tattva, the science of cosmic principles, and mantra or the sciences of mystic sound, and its various applications.

It has a wide range of practical techniques applicable by men and women of every spiritual level. It aims at turning every action into a practice of love.

Here is a basic tantric bonding meditation: Perform this meditation with your lover, for 15 minutes every day.

Sit on cushions, face each other, and close your eyes.Gently visualise your lover. Relax, be still, and focus on deepening and steadying your breath, through your nose and drawing the breath in to the pit of your stomach. Relax!

Still relaxing, focus on your partner, with a deep sense of calm.Smile, remember moments together, the joy of your very first truly loving embrace together, and allow that feeling to fill you again.

Let the memory go, but hold on to the feeling of joy, and be joyfully aware of yourself with your lover, right now. Simply be aware of yourself, free from thoughts of should or could, and merely exist in the present moment, now…

Make love with a steady mind. Find an internal point of awareness within you and settle the mind here, keeping this internal point of tranquility throughout the love-making.

Be aware of your physical arousal and focus on your sense of attraction. Keep this point of stillness within you, within the dynamic movement of your breath and the electricity of your attraction.

Spread the feeling of love to your partner, and be relaxed. Breathe until you find balance in movement and stillness, between softness and vigor, between arousal and fulfillment.

Become aware of that tranquil state within your lover as well… and remain in this relaxed, joyful, internal tranquil abiding, until you become still within your ecstasy, and come to experience the union of bliss and emptiness itself… your own, and that of your loved one too!

This basic bonding ritual, done for 15 minutes everyday, is powerful in removing obstructive, negative vibrations, and calming the mind with a deep sense of focus. This clears the mind of debris and prepares it for a higher quality of companionship.

Copyright Subhojit Dasgupta